Sunday, August 10, 2025

2025-08-10 A week apart, Dean single handing and Kris helping parents.

It's been a busy week for both us.  Kris flew out on Sunday to Bend, Oregon, where here parents live.  Her Mom is ailing, and was in hospital, but moving into Memory Care.   Kris's Dad is 93 and needed some moral support during the transition.  Kris's sister still works, so Kris flew out to help. 

That means Dean was on the boat alone - OH NO - what trouble could he get into?

Dean became Mr. Busy with projects, deciding to tackle a few items that were easier when living alone and Kris could not spend hours planning and directing, and fussing over the project.

Dean sanded our salon floor and applied new Varathane to it.   The first coat was great, but the second coat ended up with lots of little bubbles.  So sand and try again, after walking into town for a new roller.

We had purchased supplies to add more epoxy to our table-top, so he got busy and did that project as well. 

 

Floor and table looking great


Dean found other jobs to occupy him while the floor Varathane dried, like scrubbing the outside of the boat.

You can see the port hull is clean, while starboard still has some yellow stain.


While Dean was busy on the boat, Kris was sitting in the hospital room, and cleaning her parent's house.  Her Mom hasn't been physically able to clean for a while, and let's just say her Dad is less than enthusiastic.   Kris started a top to bottom scrub of every room when not in Hospital, or moving her Mom to the Memory Care facility.

On Wednesday, Dean single-handed sailed the boat 21 miles from Port Jefferson to Port Washington.


Gray sailing day

 

Only other boat on the water


Meanwhile, Kris kept scrubbing.   One job was to empty out her parent's camper and truck to get it ready to sell.   Let's just say that her folks have a lot of stuff everywhere.  A lot.  A LOT.  The water line on the truck/camper went up a few inches.

All this stuff plus more in the camper not used for last 10 years or so.   


When not cleaning at the house, Kris went in with her Dad daily to visit Mom in Memory care.  And spent some time watching the wildlife.
Mother deer and fawn in backyard of parent's house.


These deer were eating the grass right outside the Memory Care facility.

The deer were doing more than eating.

When you have to go - you have to go
 
Different from the wildlife Dean was seeing.
Think maybe a young green heron on the rocks next to dinghy dock in Setauket.


Friday Dean left Port Washington, and headed west through New York, and then just kept going for an overnight trip to Lewes, Delaware.  The weather for the upcoming week had only southerly winds, and that is the direction we wanted to go.  Option A was for Dean to go now by himself, or Option B wait for Kris and have a very miserable trip south.  Went with Option A.
 
Kris worried the whole time, and checked his live track, and called him often to make sure he was still on the boat.


Going through New York

Panorama shot - that's why the lifelines look wonky

The Queen Mary, docked in New York

Lady Liberty


The overnight sail got a bit chilly.  Dean actually put on sweatpants and shirt for the overnight journey.  Not many boats out, and winds lighter than forecast, so more motoring than wanted, but not bad seas - so all in all a decent trip.

Nice full moon on the overnight trip


Dean was quite tired, but a successful, singlehanded 30-hour trip.   Good job Dean

Dean made it safely, and anchored in Lewes, DE


Kris spending her days cleaning, helping her Dad, and visiting Mom in Memory Care.  Her Mom is going downhill quickly.  Hospice is doing their best, to keep her comfortable.

View of the mountains that you see when driving from Kris's folks into town.  South Sister and Broken Top


Dean will hang out in Lewes a few days, Kris plans to fly back on Tuesday if all works out.  Plans are flexible.

2 comments:

  1. Sending love and light to you Kris, and your mom and dad during this sad and emotional time of your moms life. I went through it in Jan this year. 😔

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  2. Sorry to hear that Kris's mom is declining so rapidly. But it's wonderful for Kris to be able to help out so much. I can imagine her in a whirlwind cleaning and de-cluttering. Kudo's to Dean for the solo sailing!!

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